judgements to bitterness to negative thought to meaningless life

"be careful not to fall in this trap of being judgemental of others. it will rob your joy and peace and allow the enemy to have a foothold in your life. comparison, jealousy and strife have room to enter whenever we entertain these thoughts" ~Joel Osteen the quote by Joel osteen above started with "be careful". most of the times we use "be careful" to something that we cant predict or expect in the future such as "be careful on your way home, the road might be slippery", in this case the reminder was given because the 2nd person might forget to maintain the speed while driving in the slippery road, maybe because the road is a smooth road with no traffic and there r only few vehicles in the same road, then the driver doesnt realize that the road is actually cliffed and slippery and too comfortable for the speed. same thing goes to being judgemental, sometimes we dont realize that we start to judge people that we tought we only give a small comment of small matter of other people or we thought we r just dying to know about certain issues regarding to that person. when we see something wrong in other people life we usually start with questioning "why does this person ......", "why that group are .....". we might think that we are just curious. after all the question we will interested to observe that person more and start speculating. then we will start with "hmmm maybe he/she ...... or ........", unconciously we wont be satisfy if we not discuss about it with someone and kind a expect him/her have the same speculation as we do. at that point either we practice your ability in explaining and debating or we just make a new bestfriend whom we regularly update any info to or get any info from about the person we r gossiping about. once we have a vague information we will find another information from another person and unconciously planting your speculation or assumption to that another person then if we not satisfy enough we'll like to have more allies who agree with our thought and looking for some other information source or debate partner. and YES! it is addictive and contangious. further effect of having that habit is when we see that person actually do well or we heard other people talked something good about him/her, we will feel down instantly. most of us we tend to unconsiously deny the reason which brought us down is actually the achievement or good things that tht person have. then we tend to prove the point that person who compliment him/ her is actually wrong by putting our self as an example like "he/she is good but you know what, if i was her i will be like .....", or we tend to reveal all the bad things that he/she have ever done to anyone. and to convince that person that our comment (read : judgement) of that person we talked about is valid by showing them that we are a better person than that person. we'll start a competition. denying our real self and competing according to that person standard. well the scenario could varies one individual to another individual, but the one i ilustrated above is the closest one to what i have been through. i started to realized the symptoms when i felt my joy of the day was robbed after i heard or know something which is not fitted my own understanding about someone. until i started to share it to somebody or "few body". the intention was to share, but i forgot that the importance of sharing is actually to help our self and to bless other people. sharing should be a bless for us and/or for the other person, (not neccesarily good things happened but bad things or bad thought which has a positive assumption point). during that period after the first sharing i feel better, not because of the positive thought input or created after sharing but because the other person had a same thought or assumption with me. the "sharing" became contangious and continually happened. the constantly "sharing" time let me unconciously turned my disagreement related to that person become a bitterness. have you ever eat something sweet and bitter together? if you did you will taste the bitter things taste stronger than the sweet. this is how our heart bitterness keep us apart from the sweetness of life given by God. entertain bitterness equal to practice your mind having a negative thought on people then furthermore to life matter or any problem come to our life. we will start become pesimistic (cuhz we use to compare our self to other people). life should be the greatest gift give to us by God.. cuhz without life we cant experience any gift happened in our life. having life allowed us to have the sweetness of having family/ friends/ lover/ marriage/ financial. bitterness will cut our capability to pull out positive things out of troubles, cuhz we use to think negatively. while actually troubles, problems, worries, doubts are part of life. God let that hapipened to our life to always remember the sweetness of life is a gift from God not from our luckyness nor our own strength and capability. therefore, avoid bonding our self with bitterness, it will make us not appreciate the greatest gift of all. which is life. God give us life out of His love. we have been given love so much in life why dont we love one another more as an appreciation of God's unconditional love for us? God love us and give us life to enjoy regardless on how good or bad we treat our life (gift). because no human are sinless or mistakes free, however God still love us. no matter how wrong other people is according to your "rightousness" standard, it is not our right to judge them. because its not us who gv them life. it was God and they are God's. God have His own plan customized in every individual life, therefore when people do something you think is wrong, it means that God customize every person's life including their life lesson. when we think they do something wrong and when common law and society also said so it means that they might be in the middle of their own learning process at that very time. keep praying for them and pray blessing for them. our obligation is not to judge, our obligation is to receive God's love and love God back. God love people, so then why dont we love people more to honor God's love for us. treat others like how you want to be treated, value others like how you want to be valued and appreciate others like how you want to be appreciated. thats how we appreciate our life. but if we want to work more on our God's given life, we could possibly do it by growing the seed of love that we receive from God. we gtta treat, value and appreciate others with sincerity regardless on how much we have received. by doing that we are not merely appreciate God's gift, but we also work on the love seed given by God and make them grow and fruitfull cuhz now in life we not only receive love but also we learned faith and hope then earned wisdom, humility and we could receive the love back from others. then by loving God's creation unconditionally we bless someone's life and we might safe them from a suicidal mission or anything we might never know. by avoid judgments we preventing bitterness. no bitterness bonding will make us feel that life is more meaningful and hopeful, cuhz positive thought and gratitude of our own self not distracted by any bad thought caused by bitterness. by enjoying our life we will sense the love of our creator more. when the love of God is so real in our life we will have the courage to spread the love more. True Love create a peaceful atmosphere. Therefore by spreading God's love the universe will be more peaceful cuhz the atmosphere growing wider and wider.. isnt it wonderful that we can give a contribution to the existence of the peace of the world by doing a small thing as love one another? I believe God love the nations and want His nations to united in peace. thus, when we love one another we actually work on God's desire, for we created by God and for God. we are blessed to bless more!!!!